Fixing things are so much harder then screwing them up. You have to tell her that you do not want your meds brought up. That she raised you and now she has to trust that she did well. I take it your parents live close enough to come to dinner once in a while? I'd ask them to dinner 2x a month at your home. Giving both your husband and you an edge so he doesn't feel as uncomfortable. If they say that they'd rather you come to there house for dinner remind them that your bringing your husband.