My partner doesn’t come to social things with me. Unfortunately people expect my partner to come along so keep asking why he doesn’t come and don’t accept my explanation that he’s not social, will probably never come along to things but I’m more than happy to come on my own. Not having children is also an issue even though I never expect people to not bring the kids and even suggest child friendly activities. Then I get left out of things and become the occasional friend.

My partner and I do have a problematic relationship (communicating using correct techniques, encouraging him to talk and suggesting we book in regular special activities together hasn’t worked). So I’m wanting to build my own friendships and community. Thus being constantly asked why he doesn’t come then being left out is difficult especially as he usually doesn’t like the friends I make but I don’t want to say “actually he doesn’t like you”. It’s also upsetting for me that my partner won’t make the effort.
As we don’t do many things together I also feel boring as I don’t get to do many things (I do regularly join short and long term activities to get out). But I can’t magically produce a man and kids to bring along. However single people see me as being a couple which puts them off.
I am gentle and softly spoken. However I have been to see a therapist and do not have any personality disorders and until recently no depression.
A single friend of mine has suggested I say I’m single but that’s not my true situation.
Any ideas I guess for both fielding the questions so they don't continue then I'm left out and building friendships on my own (as everyone seems too busy to admit new people into their lives)