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Originally Posted by HazelGirl
I don't think I do. If I do, it's not conscious, it's subconscious. There are times I'm talking about something, but then I suddenly realize I'm starting to talk about things I don't want to, but it's too late to change it now, so I have to keep going. That's not fun.
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This is where I found myself. And I think that a subconscious slip isn't manipulative, but our real desire to discuss something coming out?
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Originally Posted by Red75
I play games like this, sort of intentionally. My t said it was manipulative...cos she couldn't think of another word that means manipulative but was nicer  |
I like the sound of your relationship with your therapist! I don't think I was being manipulative, I hope not, but I know I did need and want to discuss this but couldn't previously find my way to making it important....if you know what I mean?
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Originally Posted by vonmoxie
Only you know for sure, but .. if it was on your mind to talk about it eventually, isn't it possible that you spoke the words while relaxed so that it "slipped" but not intentionally? I ask this, because I know how much therapists like to read beyond what's happening in the moment, but sometimes a cigar really is just a cigar. And sometimes words have their greatest power at the exact location of face value.
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I was feeling relaxed...he had me talking about a meditation I'd agreed to do, and had to stop because I felt so awful. And I was explaining why and what I did next....trying to justify why I couldn't stick at the full meditation!
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Originally Posted by hankster
Im queen of the doorknob. We both just expect it now, i think. If you cant beat em, join em, right?
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You make me laugh Hankster...thanks.