Thank you very much for the link. I cannot find where you got the 30% of his GROSS income as an estimate for the alimony... This would give me a little hope of getting what I'm asking for alimony. And no, he isn't at ''fault'', he only wanted to be alone... simple as that. But he didn't calculate all the emotional and financial implications of a divorce: he assumed it was like getting a driver license or something like that. He really wanted out of the responsibility of a marriage bc there wasn't any sense anymore in the relationship for him... In my humble opinion he was under a lot of stress at work and this combined with certain circumstances to produce a perfect storm for a ''midlife crisis''... and that was it.