Hi Hamspter yes I'm up front with invitations that it is only me. HVert you've hit the nail on the head when you refer to it as "hassle me" as it is more than simply raising it and accepting my answer. I think the issue is that hubby wants a bloke to talk to and as I don't produce one doesn't want me around and the woman doesn't have time to see much of me separately alone. I think I'll throw it back onto them noting they keep asking me, I accepting that he doesn't come to things and thus is it a problem for them. At least if it's hubby's issue and she's too busy to see me on her own I can suggest I'm ok with him inviting a male friend or we make it s bigger group with more couples or men. And target single women and try to get across I'm not welded to a guy's hip, maybe even not mention my living situation but focus on other topics