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Originally Posted by Shy Introvert
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I'm with him for lots of reasons. He does take care of me, and I know that he does love me even though he rarely says it. He shows his love through actions. Honestly, I don't even like sex that much. I'm almost asexual. It just has very little appeal to me. I like using a vibrator instead of having actual sex. It's so much better IMHO. I've kissed a few guys before and felt nothing. I had a loser ex before I got married and he didn't do much for me either.
Sex is not a big deal to me. It's demeaning and it's just an unpleasant chore to me. I have issues with my looks and my body too. I don't want to be alone. When you have issues like I do, your options are extremely limited. I'm content with him. That's the best that I can ever hope for.
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Shy, but you do not say that you love him. You do not even mention that he has nice skin
. You are saying that you are CONTENT with him. It is a good, direct, honest description of what motivates YOU to stay with him, and your being so open and remarkably honest is commendable, but given that you are only CONTENT with him, that he finds your skin nice and pays attention to your skin after 20 years seems
congruent with your level of affection for him. So it seems that the situation is fair - you are not giving more than you are receiving. Plus, you mention his wanting sex all the time, so he clearly finds you attractive. I think the arrangement is not that bad, and it seems pretty egalitarian to me.