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Originally Posted by ShyPoetGirl
So yesterday I went with my mom to the grocery store to help her out with carrying things and pushing the cart, because she wasn't feeling well. Usually when I'm in a large and populated place (like a store), I get a good feel of what some of the people around me must be thinking when they look at me. What comes to mind - "Look at that girl, she's huge." "I wonder how she can even push that cart." "Poor girl, she's really let herself go, it's like she doesn't care about herself at all."
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ShyPoetGirl,
I just came back from a concert where I saw two huuuuge women and instantly thought of you.
They were smiling, well dressed, put together... and nobody would pity them.
I know full well how hard it is to dress well being a young girl of a larger size. It is much easier for older women (one woman whom saw was in her 30s and the other in her 50s). In general, finding your style is harder for a young woman - I think it was Coco Chanel who said that any woman can be elegant at 60, but try being elegant at 16... Being huge simply magnifies this problem.
Still, if you find your style, people will stop pitying you with those looks. You won't look desperate - you will look confident.
To give you ideas:
One of the woman had incredibly good looking... feet. A fresh pedicure in bluish hues and stylish sandals made from black nubuck that had elaborate intersecting straps. Eyecatching.
A scarf, a little bit of makeup, jewelry, a long skirt (no sweatpants and no jeans would be a good idea for you), an updo are some other ideas. Style won't come to you in a split second - you will take awhile to develop it - but once you find pieces you like and learn to combine them to your advantage, it will stop the look of pity you are seeing in the eyes of bystanders. You will see awe instead. It will take you a while, but the pursuit is worth it. So... since you do surf the web all day long, look at fashions for bigger women. Browse gwynnie bee and find more on the web. I know you cannot buy clothes now, but you should start looking to determine what you like and picturing yourself looking confident rather than desperate.