May I ask where you came up with your list of choices?

I think everyone has different opinions on what they want in a relationship. What do you want in a relationship? Do you want one that lasts or are you just in it for a good time? Ask yourself what are the most important tools to achieving a great relationship? Some people feel sex is very important. Just because that isn’t on the top of my list doesn’t mean I’m not very interested in it or that it’s not very important in a relationship.

As a women, I want more than sex or money? I want to feel understood, comfortable to talk about anything and trust in the relationship to open myself to new experiences.
My first choice is communication. As an example, the last guy I dated was great at this, he and I didn’t have a lot of things in common, but we both were interested in discovering each others different interests so it gave us a lot to talk about. Topics included everything, from childhood experiences, to what we did on a typical night, from sex, to future goals.

Second choice, honesty/trust – Same guy- I found out he had dated my sister a couple months prior (just 2 dates). I asked him about it, he played dumb, like he had no clue. My sister and I are twins, We look very much alike. I told him I was a twin, and I told him her name. I feel he wasn’t honest and forthcoming on this matter which really hurt. I had began to become very fond of him. We were both very attracted to each other physically. However honesty is one of the most important tools in a relationship to me and when someone can’t be honest, regardless of how uncomfortable the topic is, that kills it for me. I didn’t have a problem that he dated her, the problem was that he wasn’t honest about it, even when I asked him. I gave him a few days to think about the situation and asked that he share his thoughts, but he continued to play dumb. My gut told me he was lying.

Third choice Friend/partner – if you want a lasting relationship I feel you need to either have common interests or be willing to experience different interests together. You also have to be willing to be equal partners in the relationship, being kind, considerate and willing to do for each other.

Sorry I couldn’t give you a 1, 2, or 3 answer. Relationships are not as simple as that.

Good luck! I hope you find what you are wanting.