I agree with the others in wondering why these have to be the only options.

The closest for me would be 3) Friend/Confidant I guess, but that simplifies it way too much.

What I really want (in no particular order) is:

1) A sense of safety/trust—I need to feel like I can express emotions and opinions that won't be automatically invalidated and I need to feel like I won't be purposely hurt either emotionally or physically. I also need to know that if I need protection from someone else that they'll protect me. Also, along the lines of what Kelly8896 was saying, I want to be understood and comfortable to talk about anything (which takes a while for me, but I'm getting there).

2) Honesty/Communication—I need to feel like no matter what we're talking about that we can both be as honest and open as possible and that the other person will be supportive of each other despite the answers. And even if we don't agree, that we can always strive to compromise.

3) Love—This pretty much encompasses everything…but having someone you love enough to even make sacrifices that you would never make otherwise is important to me. Having someone who will drop what they're doing to help you when you really need it…having someone who will make changes to their life (like diet for example) in order to give the couple a future is important to me. And of course love is complex and there's a lot more to it that that, but you get the idea.

4) Someone who's clearly both physically and emotionally attracted to me.