What helped me also was to get really angry! I was suppressing a lot of anger. My doctor told me to start kick-boxing! Maybe it sounds strange, but I let my anger come out in various ways. Standing in the bathroom swearing loudly when I was home alone, and boxing helped also! Letting out our anger is an underestimated form of therapy. Also it is important to me to keep in mind that the sort of society we live in is a hard place to be for women. Certain ideas we are brought up to believe in are increadibly sexist, and it is us, the victims of domestic abuse and rape, that pays the ultimate price.