I don't know where else to put this. My mom has fallen several times the last few years. I'm afraid now these aren't "falls" but possibly pushes by my dad.
I don't want to jump to crazy conclusions, but I'm basing this on a lot of history and my sisters thoughts as well. She doesn't think it has happened as far as I know but thinks it is a possibility to happen in the near future.

He still, when we are around, seems to put up with the negativity, depression, anxiety she has, and now Alzheimer's. I know as a little child I have very few memories of him choking or holding her up against the wall, or throwing things and becoming furious. I think there was a lot more violence than I can remember because my sister doesn't touch the subject much but has told me there was more than I know.

I just don't know what to do to help her. She called me a while ago, and pretends to joke about her fall. She wanted to know whether I thought tylenol or advil was better, because earlier in the day I told her something to reduce inflammation was better than tylenol. She clearly hasn't got a really horrible memory, she remembers a lot of things. My dad will tell me it is not so.
I don't believe it. I think he want's people to think her memory is worse than it is.

What makes me think it is my dad that did it, was she was calling to him, asking him something, and then said "dad can't hear me". Then I asked her, so when you fell, were you alone? She said, a long list of things that were going on around there and mentioned dad was angry about getting milk but she rambled really fast. She then said "don;t worry about me, you just worry about yourself".... I told her I think more deeply about it, just trying to hint to her that she could talk to me. I guess at her age she would never admit to being abused?? She didn't when she was younger so why would she now?

Sorry for the vent, I don't know what answers to get. If I had a vehicle I would be able to drop in on them and check up. My dad has the finances to help me for the last few years to co-sign for a loan for a car, but keeps saying he can't do it. Lately he is giving in on the idea. I think it is getting to him to take care of my frail mother. He also mentions the nursing home, but then says "mom would go totally bezerk there" and I truly want to believe that he doesn't want to see mom go through more anguish. He has mentioned he wanted to buy a home very near me. I think he needs help. Most of the time my mother calls and says dad isn't in the house and she wonders what he is doing. He is probably avoiding her but it isn't good for her to be so alone when she has Alzheimers

Other than that, who else could I call, to maybe look into things? Would that be a possibility? Maybe a neighbour, or church friend, but most of their friends have passed on.

Well I'm thinking it through and I can't think of how to find out what is really going on.