I am a man 52 years old. as a child I was sexually abused by my father, and my mother knew about it and did nothing. (it was her that told me he started in on me at the age of 6 months.) now there are a lot of things I am not going to detail, if you are reading this you should already have a pretty good idea.

as to a relationship, I love him because he is my father, but I don't respect him or particularly like him. I might see him every few years or so, (he divorced my mom when I was 16) and I might call and wish him happy new year, but that is all the contact we have. if I am seeing him in person, I cannot and will not stand to be with him longer than 5 minutes or so.

I cant remember how old I was but sometime in my thirties or forties I actually confronted him and asked Why? lets just say he wasn't remorseful at all. in fact I was told he was molested and he enjoyed the tar out of it.

now I am real big on forgiveness, and as we all know when you forgive someone, it is really for you and not them. so yes I did forgive him to his face, but I still cant spend more than a few minutes in communication with him be it phone or in person.