We can't tell you what to do. I can tell you what I did, and didn't do. I'm a year and a half separated from my third abusive long term relationship. I'm 40 years old, I married lucky number 1 at 18. All my youth wasted on taking care of them and trying everything I could think of to be what they needed and wanted so they wouldn't have to hurt me any more.

Obviously it never worked.

Please don't waste your youth trying to fix him. Spend your time on you!