Off and on during my marriage, my ex-husband was the same way. He preferred to masturbate rather than initiate sexual intimacy. Most of the time he only wanted me to preform oral on him and that was it. My needs were left unmet, even just being held, comforted, and praised. He blamed it on being afraid he couldn't perform and etc. I think a great deal of it had to do with a boyish immaturity and selfishness. Later on, I found out he was jackin' to online porn to boot.

Needless to say, I kept myself in impeccable shape, but as my career took off he felt intimidated and jealous at times. I finally filed and walked out on his *** and yeah I cheated as I slammed the door on our marriage(don't recommend you go out that way, though.) To this day he admits he was being childish and selfish, but I hated that our marriage and friendship ended on such a bitter note.