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Lately my bff of 3-4 years "Jane" has been a lot more distant lately. She no longer refers to me as her bff anymore. It's been months since she has signed the word bestie before her name. And she no longer responds to me when I call her bestie by saying OK, bye bestie. I know that this might seem silly to some, but this is really bothering me.
It's not just that, but her very distant attitude. She'll ignore ALL calls now. I'm lucky if she calls me back in a day or two. She takes a lot longer to email me back. Since she HAS been going through a rough time for the past few years, I'm cutting her some slack.
Basically her dad died back in April of this year. I was there for her of course and would answer all of her calls and let her talk for a couple of hours each time. I told her that I'd get flowers, but she told me to save my money as I'm usually on a budget. So I didn't. I got her a nice card that she really appreciated instead. I wasn't invited to the funeral since it was a small private one and only for family to limit costs. I can't imagine her being pissed at me not getting flowers. Is that possible?
Soon after that, her main best friends mom died of a stroke. Her other best friends mom was like her second mother. They've known each other for 20 years, but I have never once met this woman or her other friend. Anyways, ever since this happened, I haven't seen her in FOUR months! I did see her recently, but I sort of had to remind her that I haven't seen her in that long after I saw her post on FB that she just went out with friends.
She was fine when we met. We only me once four months before her dad died of a heart condition. I DO understand that she's been upset about this and a few other things. Is it weird that she is being more distant and ignoring me? Also, is the fact that she is no longer calling me her best friend something to worry about?
Should I say anything about that to her? Or would it make her upset that I would mention that at this time? I might see her again soon, or I might not depending on her schedule now. I'd appreciate any insight into this. I've never had to deal with a friend who's dealing with not just one, but two deaths of two close loved ones in a short period of time. So I don't know how this would affect anyone on a long term basis and the effect that it has on their friends and family.
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