I have read the post, and all the replies up to this point.

Nutz you used to know me about a year back in the chatroom.

in my honest opinion, you did everything right. you loved him, you tried to be understanding and sensitive to him etcetera.

in the scenario you presented, you not only did everything right, you even went out of your way to try to understand. the doc said your lady parts were fine, more proof you did everything right.

on the other hand as someone with issues of my own I have to ask "do you know any truthful background on how he was brought up or if he was subjected to any abuse that might have made him this way?" I only ask this because it is very likely that there are unknown issues which have caused him to be this way, and personally speaking my issues (not like his) are a direct result of the abuse I suffered on a continuing basis for most of my life.

I am not trying to exonerate his actions, only pointing out that there may be things unknown that caused him to be like that.

yes I most strongly agree that you are better off without him, and that he should be made to get the help and treatment he needs.

but above all else remember that you did everything right in this scenario and the issues are completely his.

personally I cannot imagine how someone could give someone they care about a look like that, but I can understand your reaction to it. disgusted, revolted, sick, and so on. (I have had similar done to me and that is the kind of things I felt because of it)

you are so much better off without him, and even though your self esteem took a bad hit, you did everything right (I cannot point this out often enough) and because you did, you have proven to yourself that you do have the strength and fortitude to handle a situation like this in the future before it ever gets that far.

and hopefully that knowledge and strength will also help you recover from the hit your esteem, value, and confidence have taken from that very disturbed man.

Keep up the stiff upper lip, and smile. remember you are among friends here!