Unfortunately we can't choose our parents. It took me many years and counseling to understand my dad had no idea how to be a parent. It took me longer to forgive him for not learning how. Forgiveness will help you more than it will your father. Counseling really helps, to have an objective party listen works.

The way I deal with "ANTS", which I call mind chatter, is to bring myself back to the present moment. It takes practice. So when you are studying and catch the ANTS at work, bring yourself back to your studies. Know that they are only thoughts and you can learn to ignore them.

If you ever get the chance read a book called "The New Earth" by Eckhart Tolle. It doesn't sound like it would be about mind chatter but it has lots of information on getting relief. It also, touches on staying in the present and letting go of past hurts. It's an easy read, I highly recommend it. PM me if you have any questions.