I am need for some advice or a different point of view. I’m not sure of how much background is necessary, so I’ll try to be brief J I have been dating this man for some time now. Lately he has been talking more and more about our future, living together, etc. Both of us are divorced and have children so this is not a decision that will be made lightly. I have many things to consider and weigh out, all of which I am prepared to talk about – except one topic. He has a tattoo of his ex’s name. We have never really discussed it. I don’t really even understand why this particular topic is awkward for me. I do know however that I would not move in with him while he had the tattoo. My problem is I don’t know how to approach the topic without sounding like I am demanding he cover it up. I want him to not feel defensive. For me, it’s kind of like the symbolic wedding ring, the family picture hanging on the wall if that makes sense. Many people don’t understand why I can tolerate it while we are dating, I guess it does bother me. But moving in together is a big step for any relationship. One step closer to marriage in a lot of ways. I suppose that is why. I would appreciate any suggestions or advice, even if it’s to tell me I am acting crazy J