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Originally Posted by JaneTennison1
My T tends not to label things as a good or bad session as she doesn't want me to feel like crap by labelling things as "bad". She will acknowledge if things were difficult in a session. Sometimes she will say sometimes that she feels I've done well when I have done something but for the most part she won't say good or bad session.
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That's what surprised me, the fact that she sometimes says that 'last weeks session was quite intense' when I've mentioned that I've been thinking and stressing about it all week, but she didn't acknowledge that this weeks one went well.
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Originally Posted by IndestructibleGirl
Does she generally give you much feedback? Or talk much herself? Is she more a blank slate T?
How long have you been seeing her?
This could be way out and wrong but - when you say a 'good' session, what do you mean exactly? Are you trying to be a 'good' client?
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No she doesn't give me a huge amount of feedback, or talk much at all, which is something which really bugs me, although this session she spoke a lot more which pleased me.
I'm not trying to be a good client, it's more if I feel I've discussed everything which I've wanted to discuss, have learnt something about myself and have not got too anxious, or triggered then I consider it to be a 'good' session. I felt the same about our last session, the only thing I did this week was express it. It didn't hurt that she said nothing back, just struck me as odd and wanted to know if there's something in it.
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Originally Posted by Lauliza
I've never said anything about a good session. I have said that I think I'm doing a lot better and T has agreed with me said "yes you are. you're doing very well". I think that was pretty sincere.
I general I think it depends on what it is you're asking. There's no rule that they aren't allowed to agree or disagree with you, but if they don't they may use language so you don't feel bad. It was my pdoc who I told I was doing much better. If he didn't see it that way, he might have said something more like, "Really? That's good. How so?"
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I'm not sure what I was asking when I said it, I just expected her to agree that it was nice, in the same way you may have a lovely night out with your partner and turn to them at the end of the night and agree that it has been a lovely night. It struck me as unusual that she didn't respond, which is why I repeated myself. Perhaps she'll probe more at our next session.
Thanks for responding guys
