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nonightowl · Nov 04, 2014, 02:10 PM

((((BreakFree)))),

Personally, I feel grief has no timeline. Society should not put pressure on people on how they "should" be "over it" by now. I don't really get over anything. It's always there, just buried deep. I never forget anyone that I lost. Sometimes I get reminded by hearing a song by a band they liked, for example.

I loss a friend on here with whom I had a deeper connection than my only real life so called "friend." And one day I got the message from a relative she was gone, just like that. I corresponded with her for YEARS, and everytime I come on here, I think of her. It makes it hard to come to this site now. And it used to be my safe harbor, mainly because of her.

And the cause was a FREAK reason: She choked and couldn't be revived!!! It seemed esp. cruel to me since she was feeling better than she had in a long time, and things were looking up for her. Of course, in the movies, there's always someone around to save the person. But not in real life.

I feel the connection to her was strong enough that I'd "recognize" her on the Other Side, even though I never met her, seen her, or talked to her. I would just know her.

I've lost four-legged friends too, and they are just as "human" to me as any real human, and they love you unconditionally.

Someone I used to know at the gym recently died of lung cancer. I hadn't seen him for years, and I asked other members if they knew what happened. No one did, but eventually one of them tracked him down. He was sick for sometime, but he lasted longer than they predicted.

Even though I didn't know him well, he was a friendly face to see at the gym regularly, as I have no actual friends there. I still can't believe either of them are gone, as I haven't processed it yet.

I'm sure I'll burst into tears suddenly one day, when it sinks in.