Thanks for your replies. Actually I am a member of a lot of clubs. Considerably fewer now that I am a senior but at one point I was part of 15+ clubs on campus. I'm a history major who is planning on getting my doctorate and being a professor so I will be in school for a while

I have considered talking to a counselor about it but I don't have time. Also for some reason it is incredibly difficult for me to ask for help with anything in person. It is always through an anonymous forum like this one. It's been that way since I was little and regarding pretty much everything. As for how I go about trying to find a date it usually goes one of two ways, either way we end up friends first but usually they end up with a boyfriend right before I work up the nerve to ask them out, or if I do ask them out I am usually rejected with the same line word for word talking about how we can still be friends. The problem is that I have no idea how to approach a woman I like as anything else but a friend and even if by some miracle I do find a girl who likes me I honestly would have no clue when it comes to anything after that. Also usually anxiety gets to me when I try to ask someone out in person so I usually do it via text. I don't know if that is a problem or not. I haven't asked a girl out since last February after a particularly discouraging series of events. The more I try the more I seem to screw up with this.