We split up our dog children 7 years ago....& I'm down to 3 out of the 7 I started with because the older ones were the ones I was so very attached to along with the youngest who was also very attached to me.

Well got the letter & we made the necessary changes for the way things ARE now over the last year....no more IRS, no more joint account that I closed the beginning of summer. Gave him the list of things I doubt that I will ever get there to take...but at least it's documented. H basically ended up with house full of everything from 33 years of marriage & all my mom's things in a 50/50 divorce & he says that he doesn't owe me the 100/month which is half of the retirement fund....

But it's in the letter. Will go back next week to get the letter finished & sent & see if stbxh will sign it. Most times he never knew what he was signing when we were married...who knows what he will do...probably like with the IRS & the mortgage company forclosure....IGNORE IT .

Sometimes I do just feel like I escaped with me life but his financial incapability continues to HAUNT me. There are times when I think a friend of mine was lucky. She got her freedom when her H died of cancer. I wouldn't wish that on anyone but I do wish the freedom without the battles