Well, good skin is a great asset. If people tell you that you look great natural, that means that you do. I am not familiar with the rocker chick style (age gap ), but I think that whatever you do, if you put any effort or thought into it, people would not think that you have let yourself go.

Also, here in CA people wear flip flops or open toe sandals pretty much for half of the year, but if you live in a cold climate, then this is not an option. If it is an option, cute feet do add flare, believe me. Many years ago, my daughter was in kindergarten and her teacher was a huge woman. She did wear some make up, but the most cared for piece of her body was her feet. Clean, nice, soft skin; a fresh pedicure; flip flops; a toe ring.

And, I have seen this advice in books for women who are expecting - if you feel uncomfortably big, if you walk in a clumsy way because of the shifted center of gravity, if your gait best reminds that of a mother duck... get a pedicure and display your cute feet.

Now, the kindergarten teacher had a very regular kind of loose clothing, so her pedicure was red, as was her lipstick. They matched.

For a rocker chick, I guess a classic red pedicure would not do - maybe dark purple? But it is an idea. Something to think about. Costs money, though, but - your toes would always be in front of you reminding YOU that YOU are taking care of YOU.

Another way to take care of your feet AND soul is via footsoaks. They are not expensive. Walgreens sells big bags of EPSOM salts with lavender for about $6. All you need for a foot soak is 1/4 cup of salt, so $6 would last you a looong while. The scent is calming. If you like invigorating scent, Walgreens also sells EPSOM salt with eucalyptus oil.

You do not need special equipment or a tub - just use a plastic cat litter box. I bet you can get one for a dollar at Goodwill or at a dollar store.

Pour hot water. Mix in EPSOM salt. Lower your feet into the water. Make the water as hot as you can tolerate because then it would last longer. You can use your computer or read while your feet are being soaked.

When the water becomes too cool for you, get your feet out, pat them dry in a towel and put some sort of a moisturizing cream on top.

Your feet will be soft and nice and you yourself will become relaxed from doing this ritual. And, by the way, it would qualify as caring about yourself, because your feet are part of you, so soaking and moisturizing your feet is caring about you, and because becoming more relaxed is part of self-care.

I realize that November is not the right time to talk about open toe sandals , though.