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Originally Posted by hamster-bamster
No, it does not. You might be feeling depressed because of the particular attributes of the object of your love and not the general characteristics of the opposite sex. That is one thing. Another thing is that when you are falling in love, you usually do feel attraction, so it cannot be said that you do not feel any attraction for someone from the opposite sex.
No. It is not normal. Think about it - if everybody who was thinking about having a relationship with the opposite sex felt condemned, a lot of such people would not enter into relationships with the opposite sex - the humankind would then cease to exist in a few generations or so.
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Your writing is a bit labored, probably because you are writing in English and not Portuguese. What you wrote appears strange, but it could be just because of the language barrier. Maybe if you give some examples - rather than asking very general questions - we'd be able to see your situation more concretely and in detail and provide better help.
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Okay. Sorry, I should use the google translator more often...
You need examples to understand better what's going on with me, right? I'll give you one example to represent each question I made. I hope it don't end up by getting even more confusing.
1. We have a girl, not a child, but an young teen that never had a best friend before. She had a few friends that would talk to her once in a while, but she never had this special friend that she could trust all her secrets and stay by her side whenever she needed. One day, that friend came. A friendship was formed and she was very happy. After quite some time, she began to notice something: she was falling in love with her friend and his friend happened to be a girl too. It makes her feel very confused. When she watched those movies, played those video games, the girls were never the ones that caught her attention. The guys did. What is that supposed to mean? That she is straight, lesbian or bisexual?
2. This same girl never had any problem with the gender or he future partner, but as the time goes by, some strange aversion to have any kind of romantic and/or sexual relationship with boys. It was unexpected because she always used to think some guys were handsome and all. How could this change like that out of a sudden? She tried to avoid thinking of boys that way. Decided to let clear that she doesn't want any of them to be her boyfriend. She was even being rude with them(not sure if she really wanted to be like that)! The idea of having a boyfriend doesn't sound so pleasant anymore, never was.
3. This is when she begins to wonder if she wasn't just straight, but in denial. Many people say that this is just a phase. What if this is not her true sexuality? Is she going to turn straight when adulthood come to her? Why does the thought of being attracted to the opposite sex makes she feel so sad? Was it because she really doesn't want anything with boys or are those misandristic(does that word even exist?) views becoming stronger?