As was mentioned before, you are the victim of abuse here.


As a survivor of abuse, one instance being within the context of a romantic relationship, it is my duty to urge you to stand up for yourself.


Sometimes, when you have an ex like mine that means disappearing silently, because your life is in danger...


Other times, it means we need to put down our foot and reject such treatment head on.


Whichever scenario fits, this is true for both:


The longer you put it off, the harder it becomes to do.


Because you start believing your abusers lies, you get lost in their web of lies, manipulation and deceit... You end up doubting yourself, your worth, your sanity. Eventually you lose yourself.


Stop living in fear.


Get your own bank card, if she screams at you, ignore her, go for a walk, don't entertain her rants and don't give her ammo.


If she changes the locks, call the locksmith, the cops, whoever you need to. You have rights too.


If she threatens to have you deported, remind yourself on what grounds? She is not the law, she doesn't have the power to send you away just because she feels like it.


Dammit, report her for abuse if you have to.


Just however you decide to do this, stand up for yourself. Not only for you, but for your daughters too. Teach them that this is unacceptable. That people deserve to be treated better.


Love yourself enough to put an end to this.