Definately,she only gets that angry at the oldest. I did make sure to tell her that it freaks me out so much,and begged her to never go upstairs when she is fighting with the oldest. Let things cool down. She really wants the oldest to get to see a therapist. I said maybe the start of her actually going,they could go together for family counceling. That way at least the foot is in the door. Its so strange tho,my girlfriend is such a calm patient woman with me,and the oldest is pretty friendly to me too. I get along very well with them both,but dang do they push each others buttons so easily.

The tin foil lining (my way of saying a cruddy silver lining) to this is that hopefully this can be a start of something good,and the oldest who i know has to have some issues with what she has been thru in her young life already can get someone to help her deal with it. Heck i could even be a good role model probably for the first time in my life cause i just went thru the struggle to actually get help when your poor as mud. Another positive is its the next day and none of them look like they were in a bar room brawl. No black eyes or huge bruises or anything so thats great and the oldest didnt use this insane episode as an excuse to quit college which was a fear of mine as well.