Geez, I can really identify with some of those points.

I do think that men express things differently. My boyfriend also does 1 and 2 -- #2 especially is something I think *a lot* of guys do.

One thing that might help you be happier in your relationship is to start doing stuff on your own. Instead of trying to nail him down for a date to go to the Pumpkin thing, tell him that you are going on Friday at 6 PM and would love if he could join you. Or just invite someone else to it.

My boyfriend is just not interested in some of the stuff I like to do. I've finally realized, after six or seven years, that I am better off not asking him to go in the first place. If I suspect he is going to be ambivalent about going to, say, a play - I just make those plans without him.

So maybe if you could figure out which stuff you both like doing together and doing those things with him and doing the rest with others, it would help a bit? If you start developing your own life, without waiting for him, I think you will be happier. You may wind up deciding that you would rather be with someone who shares more of your interests - you may decide that you can meet your other social needs with friends and still have a romantic relationship with him.