Therapists do not have it all together. I believe that the best Ts are those who have already gone through the fire AND don't feel ashamed for doing so. They feel proud of their recovery process. I don't think it's necessary to go out of the way to show the scars. Maybe hide them, I guess, if they are very glaring.

I would see a T with scars. I want a T who understands and has overcome their own demons. But mostly, I don't want a T who thinks he/she has it all together and then ends up being judgmental about the struggles I currently face, whatever they may be. I think the judgement can come from projection if a T hasn't dealt with their closet issues. And by dealt with, I mean at least admitting it. Too many times it seems like Ts can forget they have not arrived or something - there is always something to be working on because I believe we are a work in progress until the day we die.

My issue may not be Si, but I have issues I hope and pray my T can truly get because he admits to his humanity.