Hi Secretum, I'd say that we're talking emotionally abuse and more than........with them not supporting you in getting the help you needed with the psychiatric symptoms, sorry

The T, summer programme, paying for the college.........well as "good" parents I would have hoped that if they weren't going to follow through at least they could have worked with you to find and support you with alternatives you were comfortable/happy with. Still.............

But back to............yes I can understand the anger, it sounds very invalidating and you're right.........abusive. Then while you have a right to be angry with them it sounds like it's even more damaging to you. And I'm not saying just try to stop being angry, sure let it out, absolutely!!!! Just try not to let it become a "part of you".
They clearly have problems, deficits as parents but you can move on to be more than just the effects of their problems/deficits. And hey, I can already so clearly see your strength of character in there!!! Really impressive!!!!
You knew you had problems.......you pushed them to get help with that, you looked for more with the summer programme.............you tried to get help to get there, you held onto the importance of your education...........you tried for better, and you managed your MI's with very little support from your parents!!!!!! Go you!!!!!!
Now you seriously do not have to let them hold you back any more than what might be completely unavoidable. You have risen so far above it all already, hold onto that strength!!!!
Notice I didn't mention the "coming out" in there . Deserving of a rant of it's own, hey?? No matter what religion.........any religion that teaches hate, contempt or intolerance in that respect I would hope any "decent" person would walk (run!!) away from. Then maybe it's more down to different interpretations of the religion and the people themselves than the religion sometimes. So no excuse, right??!!! And well done you on standing up and being yourself, especially with parents like that!!!! Please never let your parents views of you, see yourself as anything less than............!!!

So.........I am really sorry you didn't have the supportive parents you should have
Just try not to let them "drag you down" any more than.............while at the same time you do deserve to acknowledge and work on/with/through the effects of.............and for that we're here for you.



Alison