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Originally Posted by sophiesmom
It would be my guess that the majority of people have, no matter which party is married or not.
But we are adults and we need to have some self-control, either because it would interfere with our work environment, or it would be morally wrong.
Personally, I think you are inviting trouble by wanting her in your life. I also think you are trying to convince yourself that it can remain a friendship.....
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I think it's possible partly because I've had friendships and ongoing acquaintances that have developed out of an initial attraction that didn't last. Those were all different scenarios where I asked someone out and she wasn't attracted back and it just kind of evolved into a friendship. In those situations, I learned that I have excellent self control, that friendships can be very fulfilling, and that friendships often times last longer than romantic relationships.
I also have a tendency to protect people I like. This would include protecting them from making bad decisions or acting on destructive impulses like adultery. I take pride in doing the right thing, especially when it's not easy.