I agree with the others this is Abuse.. I'm sorry your in such a mess.

One thing you might want to do that may help you see things in another light,

If your daughter was in a marriage and her husband treated her the way your wife is treating you, what would advise her to do?

You deserve a life that doesn't include abuse. You need to make sure your children are safe.. When your wife dislocated your daughters shoulder what happened ?