Depending on a number of factors, I'm either distracted, or pretty focused. Usually, I'm pretty focused. The sex with my wife is pretty amazing, but lately, i've been distracted. She's pregnant, and sex has been so different lately. Certain positions can't work, sometimes we have to stop (apparently the cervix is very sensitive during pregnancy). It's a lot to focus on, and they lead to thoughts that question the whole act all together.