The proselytizing therapist... how awful. And you had to pay money for it... oh my.

I have not had twins, but I know a ton of people who do, because where I live women tend to delay pregnancy.

So - this is from second hand knowledge, but still.

1) support groups for moms carrying twins

I cannot stress this enough. This is more important than therapy, especially the kind of lecturing "therapy" you received.

2) Stop waking up your H because it is a recipe for disaster. You are not getting that much help from having him awake, but his sanity is waning. The cost of your waking him up is FAR bigger than the benefit you are receiving, so please stop. Plus, you need him functioning as you might have to apply for short term disability. Plus, you need him awake for when the twins arrive.