Your husband does not sound like somebody capable of violence. Plus, he already knows everything - there would not be new information for him. Pretty much same for the psychiatrist. I think it is delusional thinking speaking - in reality, the psychiatrist has neither time nor inclination nor curiosity to come look for you on the web.

You are not totally insane - you are making sense and your sentences are perfectly coherent and well-formed, but you do exhibit delusional, paranoid thinking.

That you do not think that the husband would be violent shows that you are not totally insane.

Apparently Abilify is not working for you, because your dose is huge and still, psychotic ideation is present. Except for Klonopin, all your meds are given to you at really high doses. Maybe the new pdoc can review that - maybe you need different meds at lower doses instead.