Welcome Danielle. Nice to see you here.

I am sorry for the situation you are currently in. I know first hand how psychiatric medication can cause weight gain, and having bpd aswell, with the self esteem issues, is like mixing oil and water. I'm on seroquel at the moment because it's the best one to stabilizing my mood and right now I'd rather get my mind healthy first before I tackle other things. Yes, there are other antipsychotics like saphris that can be more weight neutral, but for me, personally, it doesn't stabilise my mood so it's a catch 22 situation. Your boss is crossing the line. Full stop. There are certain things that are socially unacceptable to say to someone. Weight is one of those issues. So know that he is the one with the problem, not you. So yes, you can continue to hold it to heart and take it personally. Or take two steps backwards and say to yourself (not your boss!) - hang on, who really has the issue here!

As for your family. Take a side step. Doesn't sound like much you say will win them over / convince them of your disorders. You can continue to try fight it and prove your point. Which will continue to upset you. Or you can regain the power and say to yourself I know who I am and I don't need affirmation.

Be well.