I don't disagree that struggles make us stronger. (In fact, my T and I had an interesting discussion this week about that in reference to a recent publicized death). I do not expect my T to be perfect. I have actually begged her at one point to prove to me she's not perfect...lol. And I am a self-injurer myself and have met many who have SI'ed.

But for a T to disclose their own issues, it needs to be an appropriate time and client for that. Letting client randomly see scars and them having to ask about them is inappropriate imo. But if the relationship between client and T is stable, and disclosure could benefit the client, then I think disclosure would be okay.

We might not want to be judge, but there's no way to avoid it. And in a delicate relationship such as therapy, disclosure could be harmful to the client. As a therapist, your clients come first; not your desire to be accepted.