You've been given some good advice.

My closest friend has issues with clutter and things just lying around the house. The only time she will put stuff away (throw them in cupboards) is once a year when her landlord comes for an inspection. And she will get her mom to mow her lawn.

Nobody is allowed at her house. Ever. If I see her it always has to be at my place. If her son wants to visit a friend it can't be at her place it must be at theirs.

I'm pretty sure we've all been in a situation when an unexpected guest has suddenly popped by and we think omg why now! I know I have been caught of guard.

Think about where this is leaving you in the long term and then ask yourself if you're willing to make small, one step at a time, basic suggestions given to you?

Be well.