I can identify. I deal with this very thing with my husband a lot. Other people also, and it is different, if I go to a medical office or for example an insurance office, and they interrupt me or do not acknowledge the one thing I say or answer the one question I want an answer too, I snap, there is a switch and I go into ***** mode and I treat them like crap. It is so frustrating, it happens when I do not really expect it, and I have NO tools for coping with frustration on this level. People do not understand when I get that way, my family knows I do it and my kids even fear I will do it at the grocery store and embarrass them. Other ppl say it is no big deal, let it go blhahlhlhlhlhl My husband has said things about it and I hate that it is a part of me that I cannot turn off. What I think you are talking about though, is speaking with a loved one and they are not getting what you are saying or literally NOT LISTENING. Which is the case with my normy husband. It is a huge complaint of mine. He knows it,.. He even posted on Facebook the other day a meme about a wife not being listened to and he wrote some idiotic comment about how he is guilty of that and that his wife hates it. Yeah I f u cking hate it you never listen to me dickface. Anyway, when I know he is not listening the same reaction happens. Rage. I try to insult to get a reaction sometimes. I pull away. I decide to leave him. I have the most fantastic fantasies about having affairs with a listening person and leaving him alone with nothing. After I calm down I realize EVERY time how idiotic and childish I am and then I feel a bit guilty and very very sorry for him having to put up with me. I am intolerable. I need tools to deal with this broken part of me.