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Originally Posted by Red75
Partless, that sounds like a lovely place to be 
Wow, so many responses, I have been reading them all again and thinking about everyone's replies.
I would never show my scars, and also I would not work with clients if I was in a place where I was currently harming. I agree that that would mean I am not stable enough to support others. But it's been lovely reading the well wishes, and support, and I guess it's true that different people need different things from their T's. I was feeling rather discouraged yesterday, but better now, and resolved even more to work through all my own issues so I can be that t, for someone. |
As I already stated, I would not go to a T with visible SI scars- I need my Ts history blank- at least the first few years
. I do now (8th year and counting) from time to time ask my T about him but in the beginning I kind of played the game T's not real, just s.o. that exists only for 50 min a week... I know it sounds silly but that was what I needed to get me talking/sharing.
That said I do not believe a difficult past automatically signify good/bad T- or person for what is worth. I don't believe I am better/worse for "overcoming" my past as I'll never know what kind of person I would be without it.
It's great you have a dream and are working hard to achieve it. I think you asking yourself (us) this truly difficult question shows you do have a potential to become a great T one day