My T was not originally from the United States so occasionally our different culture/looks/backgrounds would make themselves known. Anyway, one summer my husband and I decided to spend our "vacation" taking sailing lessons (my husband's father lived on the water on Florida's West coast and had a sailboat and was getting older and we thought it might be nice if we knew how to "help" so he wouldn't have to work so hard entertaing us when we'd go visit) and I was telling my T this and it turned out she'd taken the exact same lessons with her husband several years earlier. I couldn't imagine her taking these lessons, she didn't seem the type to me :-) but it did make me feel closer to her, like we coud have similar interests, etc. in real life and I'd think of the sailing lessons whenever I felt a bit distant or like our dissimilar childhood/backgrounds were getting in the way.