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Old Nov 06, 2014, 12:37 PM
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Originally Posted by Clementine K View Post
I did, and ended up leaving my therapist (T1) in favor of the consulting therapist (T2). T2 was really helpful by explaining the extreme transference feelings I was having towards T1, and helped me sort out whether or not it was best for me to continue with t1. I found her her easier to talk to, with less of the emotional mess that was torturing me with T1. It's my feeling that just because you are 'attached' to a T, it doesn't necessarily mean you have to stay with them and endure excessive emotional upheaval. In life, if you fall in love with someone and are rejected, you have the opportunity to feel it, avoid them and move on. In therapy it's almost in possible to get over them when you are intimate with them weekly. I'm sure for others, working things through is helpful, but for me, switching gave me the distance to do the work that needed to get done instead of focusing excessively on the relationship so that the point of therapy was lost.
That's what I'd think too. Though therapy might *feel* like a marriage, there are no assets or child custody issues involved. If the relationship becomes draining rather than enhancing, about --the relationship--rather than about your growth, and continues with no resolution, I see no virtue in staying.

However if you've experienced gaslighting, abuse bullying, etc. I'd think it helps to seek a third party for distance and perspective.