Interesting - a real variety of responses! Dudes seem more wired to be into it since it probably feels good instantly, get aroused more easily,whereas women like me have to work real hard to get aroused, let alone orgasm. My husband HAS to have sex at least once a week due to the horniness building up so much, but I could go months without and not even think about it or crave it. I once tried testosterone gel, maybe my T is low, but it didn't seem to help. At any rate, too much opportunity for my brain to go wandering.

My therapist said if I don't have memories of being sexually abused, then let it go. I do have a problem with intimacy and she said it could be that I wasn't "taught" in childhood. I never saw my parents as sexual or intimate with each other, so that may very well be the case. It sucks! I want to be able to enjoy it more!