Thanks for the replies... I realized something yesterday that has me rather frustrated (meaning I want to control) the situation. After posted I asked myself "Why does this same stupid question come up when I'm feeling 'I'm not getting heard???.' I was upset and then bing a light bulb went off in my head" You say this because when you were being sexually abused you did tell your mother but she didn't hear you!!!!!!!!!! Now I'm left with this new discovery irritating me, frustrating me and also I have questions popping in my head WHY??? WHY??!!! I called my T and he said, before it didn't make sense until you were ready to see it. He believes things are coming to a head. I'm just getting tired of stuffing these emotions. Having BPD I just don't know how to handle things in a calming way. I'm mad too because often T's want you to use or learn DBT SKILLS why do I have to learn them let others learn it!! So as you can see I'm no happy..my emotions are up and down and at that there is no one else who knows about the trauma I've endured as a child except my T! My family at least my sister doesn't want to hear about it. So it's like walking around with a smelly garbage bag on your back. yet I can't force others to accept my grap! So I'm feeling lost and overwhelmed. JG