I think your telling him you didn't love him, etc. that one time made a big impact on him. I used to throw around "divorce" when I was depressed & blamed it all on my husband. One day he took me up on my threat & said you want a divorce so let's do it! I learned to not threaten with things I really don't want.

I didn't want a divorce. I was just so depressed & could think of no other thing to blame it on except him (later was diagnosed with bipolar--that explains a lot), I learned to not say things I don't mean & to not ask questions that I didn't want to hear the answers to.--Suzy