I'm trying to process how I feel about a reply I just received from my old T that I terminated with 6 months ago.

On one hand, I'm a bit disappointed because I wrote all about my new job and how it is going, and all she said was "It was good to hear from you, purple. Sincerely, T." I guess I shouldn't have been surprised-- she did warn me communication would be one-sided and short. I just didn't expect it to be this short. I've been having a hard time lately and really miss her. Now I can't even lie to myself that a part of us isn't over, because it is. I don't get to hear her thoughts about me, about the book list that she gave me when we ended. Once a client, always a client.

On the other hand, I am really happy to have read her response. We haven't talked in so long, and though it was short, I smiled anyway. I know that she knows the general happenings in my life, and I believe it was "good" to hear from me. Maybe she didn't want to say something like "it's good to hear things are going well" because she knew deep down things in my life aren't solely positive (though that is all I included in the email). Which would mean she knows me. It's also just nice to get confirmation that she still exists out there, containing me.

For those who have e-mailed a T post-termination, were their responses similarly short? My T said her replies would be "less counsel-y"... but the way she phrased that made me think it would have been a bit longer than one sentence. I'm afraid she was more careful to set a boundary than she had anticipated. Does that mean I did something wrong? That maybe I said too much, appeared too eager to say hi? I tried to keep it concise, positive, and general, but maybe I crossed a line because I thanked her for the book list and talked about how I really liked the books she recommended. I don't know.