Hi ScorpGal It is unfortunate that your son does not communicate great. But think about this.....Staying away from him and his family does not help the communication or your loneliness. Just make the conversation generic. Or find something you can all do together just to spend time. Make or build a project, play games, something. You may be able to develop a healthier relationship with his children!
Your daughters situation is not positive. Reading a little about metastasized cancer made me think I would probably want to go on with whatever I wanted to do, healthy or not good or not!!! Why not enjoy the short time she has left. You may not feel that way cause she is your child and you want her to do whatever she needs to so she can hang on longer. From what I read, that is what she would be doing. Seriously......think about her point of view. It is very generous of you to help her over the past months. Are you discontinuing your help because she wants to resume her activities. Well, that is our decision, but I hope if she needs your help you will reconsider.
If you cut off some of your friends, I am sure you have your reasons. I personally have 3 very close wonderful friends, and I would not trade quality for quantity. I think the older I get the more I have realized that!
I hope you are not offended by my comments about your daughter I gave you an un bias honest opinion.
Same think about your son.
Good luck to you!!!!!