Dear JJ,
I wish your mother good health and full recovery. I also wish that you are given the strength and courage to cope with these difficult times.
Because of education, I was very far from my parents and although we used to stay in touch over phone/internet, still I could only visit them once every year or so. Whilst being so far, my greatest fear used to be what will happen if I lose them whilst I am away and I may not be near them when their time comes. It bothered me sometimes and it even posed a question, is it worthwhile to be far away from my loved ones… And then a friend of mine told me something, he had lost his parents due to old age and he was himself abroad at that time. He told me that it is important to be near your parents but more important thing is that they passed over to the next world whilst you had respect and love for each other, your relation amongst yourself was great and this is more important than being close and near!
So I would say that you are a good person who is taking care of ailing mother and the two of you have a bond based on love and respect.
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