Thanks for taking the time to give me your input. I agree and appreciate your comments. I was feeling confused about the situation but feel better reading this, makes it look a bit clearer.

Luckily I am ingrained to use condoms, so thankfully that isn't an issue, and yes hamster-bamster the issue I need to address is drinking too much and not getting in that situation. Think its been a bit of a wake up call.

Thanks again