sometimes in the past when i have called my therapist, it has been infuriating and troubling and depressing to receive either: no message back or not the message back i really wanted from my therapist.
...but what we eventually tried to understand, or I tried to understand, was that i needed to speak my needs. if i said to my therapist: "you don't need to call back" then I had to mean it. If I said: "i need you to call me back", i tried to understand that i wasn't her only client and circumstances might be that she can't get back to me in as timely a fashion I would like. and all the while, I try to remind myself that my therapist's responsiveness and the character of her response does not reflect on my own worth.
so, for me, it has been about speaking my needs and learning to speak them true, and get in touch with what i really want. it is hard as heck to do it and not get upset with her if she doesn't respond how I want or when i want.
all this said....i don' t know if any of it applies to your situation. i just wanted to share my two cents on the subject of calling one's therapist.
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