Part of the "healing" too Jane is not just about what happened and sorting through how it affected you as a person. It's also about learning to take from the experience as well, and doing something "productive" with it. A lot of soul searching takes place when a person experiences a trauma. So one of the things that is "healing" is also seeing how "others" have learned to heal and accept that "yes" it did happen, it cannot be taken away, but it can be taken and utilized in ways that are not only healing to one's self, but to reach out to others in a more understanding and supportive way too.

I watched Billy Bob Thorton share things about his tragedies in life and how he had to sort through it and even grow from it. It's not "your" specific experience, but it was "trauma" that he had to figure out how to sort through himself. I am glad I got to see this myself, I had not known much about him, but I like his demeanor, how he shares his way of seeing things. It's nice to have someone share on a deep level like this because it brings into the mind a kind of presence that is a kind mentor type that acknowledges the challenge itself in a quiet validation of how difficult that healing journey really is.

There are several areas he addresses that are all worth listening to that I found comforting.

So here is the "link".
Billy Bob Thornton on the Death of His Brother - Video